A compelling scientific explanation of the complex, mysterious world of female sexual desire, As You Are is an essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science. With humor and clarity, Emily Nagoski provides an accessible education in anatomy, psychology, and physiology that will transform your sex life into one filled with confidence, joy, and uncharted pleasure.
Come as You Are offers a radical, practical, and science-based approach to understanding how our brains influence sexuality and how we can successfully navigate a broad spectrum of sexual experiences—from a desire to orgasm. Emily Nagoski explores the brain chemistry behind arousal, desire, and satisfaction in truly remarkable ways. For example, she tells us what feels good for our brains and why it’s important that we enjoy our sex lives.
In this comprehensive resource guide to reinventing the way we approach pleasure and desire, Dr. Emily Nagoski gives women the tools they need to retain their sexual confidence and enjoy healthy, satisfying sexual relationships. Drawing on critical brain science, she explores the biological roots of female desire, why most of us feel stifled in our sexuality as adults, and how to tap into what is already inside us. Drawing on decades of groundbreaking research and clinical practice, Emily shows you how to reclaim your secrets for better sex—and happier life.
About Come as You Are Book
An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.
Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function as Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never be the answer—but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all.
The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Because women vary, and that’s normal.
Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm.
Cutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most critical factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life is not what you do in bed or how you do it but how you feel about it. This means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual well-being; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible.
And Emily Nagoski can prove it.